After suffering from m/c and then subsequent IF, we decided to try for adoption. After many approaches to many different agencies and LA's and a house move to get a bigger place, we finally started to get somewhere.
We started this stage of our journey back in May 2009, when we first enquired about little man and his brothers in Be My Parent, we were not yet approved or even with an agency at this time. However the family finder and children's social worker came to visit us in the June/July time, they decided to proceed with regards to getting us assessed and approved regarding little man only as he was the eldest and needing a forever family, which was so far eluding his social worker.
We were invited onto the preparation course the first 2 weekends of September 2009 (fri&sat), we duly attended this, after which we were asked what we thought and if we wanted to proceed further. We of course did, and we formally applied to become adoptive parents later that same month.
Our application was accepted, and we were assigned an independant social worker to commence our home study, as we were living out of their catchment area.
Our home study was started in October 2009, and as it was being based specifically around little man, it was done intensely, to start it was over 3 full days, 2 and 1/2 with us and the other half spent seeing our referees. Then there was one more visit to come at the beginning of December. During this time we had to have our medicals, the first ones weren't great and we had to have another one done each as they had picked up on some things and wanted proof they had been addressed. Luckily these were ok.
In amongst all this we had been fitting in meetings with little man's FC, paediatrician, school etc, all of which went well and put our minds at ease about some of his problems.
We were initially going for a panel date in Feb 2010, however things weren't ready on time, then our SW was on leave, so we were told to get everything in place for a panel date of 15th March, with intros starting a week later, with moving in date being easter hols.
Big news the week before panel date, panel had been put back due to lack of communication between people.......so so angry about this as DH had booked leave etc from work which he couldn't get back, and i had to mess my work about regarding time off.
Having calmed dh down as he was ready to jack it all in after being messed around many times, we picked ourselves back up and waited for a new panel date.
Finally received a new and confirmed panel date, for approval followed by matching.
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